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Parenting

How to Talk to Your Child When You're Exhausted

The everyday research on parental sleep loss is more sobering than the parental research literature on almost anything else. A sustained sleep deficit...

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Parenting

Repair After Conflict: The Single Most Useful Skill in Parenting

The bar isn't to avoid conflict with your kid — that's not possible and wouldn't be healthy if it were. The bar is to come back. Half a century of att...

6 min read

Parenting

What to Do If You Lose Your Temper With Your Child

There is a very specific kind of shame that arrives the moment after you have shouted at a 3-year-old. The flush, the stomach drop, the urge to either...

7 min read

Parenting

How to Apologise to a Child (and What Counts as a Real Apology)

A generation of British parents was taught — sometimes explicitly, often by absence — that parents do not apologise to children. The argument was that...

11 min read

Parenting

When You Lose It With Your Child: What Repair Actually Looks Like

You yelled. You said something sharp you didn't mean. You slammed a cupboard door and saw your child flinch. The first response, which is the wrong on...

9 min read

Family Life

Healthy Conflict Resolution Modeled for Children

Research by E. Mark Cummings and Patrick Davies, who have spent decades studying how marital conflict affects children, makes an important and somewha...

7 min read

Family Life

How to Discuss Disagreements in Front of Children

Most parents believe they should never argue in front of their children. The research says something more nuanced: it's not the arguing that harms chi...

5 min read

Parenting

Managing Your Own Temper as a Parent: Why It's Hard and What Actually Helps

Most parenting books focus on what to do with children. Relatively few address the more uncomfortable truth that the adult's behaviour in moments of a...

5 min read